Real BIG LOVE Ceremonies
Anna & Rich had already spent half their lives together by the time I married them at the Fingal Head Lighthouse. In a day full of symbolism & meaning; their 3 beautiful children (& their beloved pooch) watched their parents struggle to get their words out through their tears. It was a JOY to bear witness to this kind of love.
Anna is, to put it mildy, VERY creative, she crafted this wedding (more on this later) & I arrived at the site to find this backdrop for the ceremony….
She had had made a crane for each month they had been together……after 18 years together, that’s A LOT of cranes & a lot of beauty to be surrounded by.
And paying homage to ‘keepin’ it real’ here’s what they said to each other.
“Rich you inspire me creatively, personally as a partner and mum. I love that we don’t need spoken word. I love that you’re my best friend and
I love you for you even when you shit me to tears.
”Rich: “Anna, I love that you are a beautiful, gentle, nurturing being almost all of the time, I love your creativity and that you officially know everything, and I love your quirky sense of humor. I love you for you even when you shit me to tears!”
Here’s some of what I said…..
“Their journey so far has included many wonderful experiences that has seen them grow in love and in numbers! Producing 3 great, smart and caring children; Rich and Anna feel truly blessed that they can share this experience with them.
Anna & Rich have a wonderful story with Rich knowing as soon as he laid eyes on Anna that they would spend their lives together, they were kindred spirits and soon became more than best friends.”
Some of their kind words to me after the ceremony…..
“Jo you really were the absolute perfect celebrant, thank you so much.”
Every second I spent with this amazing & hilarious couple was a joy, I spent quite a portion of my childhood camping at The Tweed Coast, and the memories that flooded back when I arrived just added to the magical weekend.
Do I need to say again how much I love my job???
for more information: Marriage Celebrant Sunshine Coast
Before the Wedding Ceremony you must sign a Declaration stating there is no legal reason for you & your partner not to be married.
Due to time & distance constraints (This awesome couple live & were married in Melbourne) I met them while they were being ‘beautified’ at the Salon to do the last minute paperwork & discuss the final little details for the ceremony….This was a refreshing first for me – I’ll do whatever it takes!!
For more information: Wedding Celebrant
This stunning young couple met and married (6 years later) at Tangalooma Island with their very closest family & friends.
We ALL cried as the Bride walked toward her groom. I do get misty eyed when I see my Brides & Grooms cry in happiness at each other’s beauty, but Kandi was so stunning I actually had to dab the tears away.
They gave their darling daughters bracelets during the ceremony and here’s some of what was said as they did that:
“Mummy & Daddy are giving you this special bracelet to show you how much they love you. It is their promise of commitment to you. They will continue to give you loads of cuddles, kisses and tickles. They will love you with all their hearts and guide you in the best way they know how as you grow up. This bracelet is a reminder of how beautiful you look in your special dresses, how special this day is; when your beautiful family became one.”
Here’s some of what they feel about each other:
“Kandi, Scott has expressed that you’ve taught him not to stress over small things.
He sees what a wonderful mother you are & your example has taught him how to be a great Dad. He feels that he’s living the dream with you, so beautiful & smart by his side.
Scott, Kandice is so grateful that you work hard to provide for her & the girls. She loves that you know how to calm her when she’s stressed & you have taught her, in her own words, not to be so stubborn & dramatic.
She adores & appreciates that you are funny, caring and kind hearted….”
Here’s what they said:
“Thank you again for making our ceremony so perfect!! It was more than what we had dreamed of!!”
Kandi & Scott, I really can’t thank you enough for your generosity of spirit (& Terry is still SO grateful that you insisted we join you for your Wedding Dinner with us even though we were wet & smelling like dolphins)
for more information: Marriage Celebrant Sunshine Coast
These adorable people, AKA My Double Happiness couple lit beautiful Chinese unity candles with their parents during their very personal ceremony at The Broadway Chapel
This is some of what I said:
“Relationships are as unique & quirky as the people in them and for Fook & Loretta, it is no different. Once upon a starry night, a (grown up) boy and a girl were playing merrily at a children’s playground.
The girl had requested some scones with jam and tea, but instead the boy presented the unsuspecting girl with a tiny treasure chest. Curiosity getting the better of her, the girl opened it and inside was a Kinder Surprise chocolate egg. After polishing off the chocolate, she opened the “surprise” to find a sparkling diamond ring and the boy down on both his knees.
She barely heard him when he whispered, “Will you marry me?”. Today we are here to celebrate the very obvious answer to that question….. “Yes!”
Do you know how many Kinder Surprises it takes to perfect the art of hiding an engagement ring inconspicuously inside of one? A LOT. It takes A LOT….and you know what it shows? A LOT of devotion to the person you love…..a brilliant way to propose!!!
This is some of what she said to him:
“You are my best friend and my soul mate. Thank you for showing me that there is such a thing as real, unconditional love. I want to make a promise to you today that I will share with you myself, my love, my respect and friendship. I promise to laugh and cry with you, and communicate with an open heart. I promise to grow with you as we continue to travel through life together creating many wonderful and happy memories. I love you.”
This is some of what he said to her:
You are my best friend and my soul mate. I want to make a promise, to you and to myself, in front of our closest family and friends, that I will love you always, I will respect and honour you as the beautiful woman you are, I will support and protect you to the best of my abilities … all of this with an open heart. Let us always be friends, lovers and good companions, and let us build a lifetime of memories, and grow old together. I love you … now and forever.
Here are some of their kind words to me:
Your expertise & suggestions certainly helped us to create a fun, happy personal & meaningful ceremony that everyone enjoyed.
Many of our guests mentioned to us that they really enjoyed the ceremony, as it wasn’t the usual boring run-of-the-mill long winded ceremony. They mentioned that it was very happy, joyful & very “us” which is exactly how we wanted it to feel. Thank you for helping us create such a memorable occasion”
Loretta & Fook, thank you for choosing me to guide you over the threshold of your next adventure. Your love for each other is obvious and I thoroughly enjoyed working with you!
You meet at your Niece’s Cowgirl Birthday Party (yes, you’re in costume). You get talking about weddings. They ask you to marry them. You’re suspicious that if you begin the journey this way, the rest of the ride’s gonna be pretty fun. Your suspicions are right. We got together a few times so I could get to know them & their story so we could carefully plan & craft their ceremony. I enjoyed every meeting.
“Today we’re all feeling particularly grateful to Amy’s dad, for it was because of him that these two darling people met that fateful day. Luke was particularly sick & not looking too good when he first met Amy, he’d already seen a photo of her and immediately assumed he’d never have a chance with a girl like her. Luckily he was wrong in his assumption and their love story has led them to this moment…..
During one of our conversations Luke told me that he and Amy haven’t had to compromise who they are for each other. That they feel appreciated and loved for who and what they are and extend this freedom to each other is a wonderful gift. Though you may need to compromise many, many times in your marriage –it is our wish that you will continue to accept each other for who you truly are.”
Here’s their feedback:
“…you exceeeded all of our expectations, your passion, down to earth nature and commitment towards our wedding was spectacular. You were always supportive, thoughtful and open to any ideas. You took our story and ideas and turned it into a ceremony that reflected us, our love for each other and the life we want to have together. We received so many compliments from our Family and friends expressing what a fantastic celebrant we had. You are a truly wonderful Celebrant because of who you are as a person and the way you truly love to connect 2 people who are in love in a unique and personalised ceremony. Keep up the oustanding work cause you are amazing at what you do and we would not have had the most amazing ceremony that we did without you!”
I cannot imagine what it would feel like to meet the person I wished to spend the rest of my life with and then be told It was forbidden for us to get married because we were the same gender.
I have no concept of what that feels like & the frustration that must come with it…
but I DO know what it feels like to be involved in a process where 2 people want to make a commitment to each other, to their lives together, to their future children because they LIKE each other, the LOVE each other, they GET each other, they ACCEPT the quirks, they’ve come through TRIALS and decided they still WANT to be together….
Kel & Bron, thank you for being so willing to share your love with those around you. Thank you for your honesty & candour. Thank you for your beautiful words. Mostly, thank you for involving me in the process-it was an honour.
Here’s what they had to say:
“Even though we had previously arranged for another celebrant which didn’t work out, we were so excited after our first meeting with you. The ideas you provided and the options you gave meant our day would be unique and exactly what we wanted it to be – it would be ours. Soo much stress was caused the morning leading up to the wedding with decisions regarding venue & changes due to the weather and it was such a relief when you arrived because we knew talking it through with you offering your opinions would help us reach the best decision possible.
You knew right away of what we wanted included in our ceremony & what we wanted to leave out just by asking a few questions. You knew more about us & what we wanted from the ceremony then we seemed to know ourselves.
The intentions part of our ceremony was so unique and special, we had never heard of this in a ceremony before and it was very special for us because it meant we could ask each other exactly what we wanted to feel special and loved and this would have never been included without your input.
Please know that you made the biggest difference in our day & lives & we will be eternally grateful”
post script-the Civil Partnerships Bill has just passed in Qld-let’s see where it leads us….
these gorgeous photos by Studio60
They’d had their fair share of hiccups during their preparation and the Weather Gods gave them no reprieve for their wedding day. Their hopes for the beach wedding they’d so dearly wanted were dashed as the hail, thunder & lightning arrived. Fortunately Rickys is a beautiful restaurant & we were cosy & still enjoyed the views of the Noosa river and the bride and groom arriving via their water transport.
With my couples permission I like to add their love story to the ceremony, here’s some of what I said…….
“Adam proudly claims that he can chat to anyone but that ability came to a grinding halt when he met Jasmine. Hiding in the cold rooms of the restaurant was his futile attempt of escaping the nervousness he felt when ever she was around. So, realising that throwing chocolate bars at her wasn’t getting him any closer to a date he asked her out after he’d discovered she’d quit her job and he thought he’d missed his chance”
This is what he said:
“All too long ago I gave up on love but when I met you I knew straight away you were my only exception.
You are the person that keeps me sane in this crazy world
You are the person that brings passion and fire to my life”
This is what she said:
“From the day I met you I knew you were someone special,
You are the person I can go to when I’m happy or sad.
You are the person I can tell anything to and I know you will support me 100%.
Before I met you I was completely happy being by myself and doing things alone, now I want to do and share everything with you- you are the person I miss the most when I’m on my own”
Here’s a bit of what they had to say to me.
Sunshine Coast Wedding Celebrant
these beautiful images by John Bowden Photography
This awesome song is an indication of how cool these 2 people are. Jo happily walked down the grassy aisle at the Shelly Beach, SUNSHINE COAST, foreshore toward her slightly nervous Nev. The sun was shining, as were all the faces of their guests.
here’s a part of their ceremony….
“This beautiful beach is quite a contrast to the snowy French Alps where the Carpenter & Chalet Girl met, formed a friendship & after some initial hesitations about height differences fell in love. They passed their time adventuring in various parts of the world, snowboarding, listening to music, reading books, eating, drinking and partaking in general merriment. They had to spend time apart from other & realised they didn’t like that too much-so, (after a phone call to Jo’s parents asking for permission) a Christmas Eve proposal on bended knee at the picturesque seaside village of Lyme Regis ensured the apart times would be fewer in the future. Then the Chalet Girl picked up her Carpenter-threw him over her shoulder and carried him to these fine shores.”
I thoroughly enjoyed every second I spent with them planning & conducting their ceremony. Their very obvious love for each other, their stories, their creativity and smiles made the experience so delightful…..
Here’s what they had to say about our experience…
“We felt that you provided a very personal service, that was tailored to our needs and personalities, and was efficient and informative about the process of getting married! You were positive, upbeat, and you gave us some great ideas – without being pushy or intense about anything – your fab ‘people skills’ made us feel comfortable from day one.
You got to know us as a couple, so you understood how and what we wanted in our ceremony – your sense of humour and positive, warm approach made us feel very comfortable in the lead up to the ceremony – and Nev especially loved the support you gave him as he stood waiting for my arrival!
We loved the attention you took to make sure we were happy with all of the words and format of the ceremony, and the creative ideas and suggestions that made us think about how we could personalise our day.
We really loved the support and guidance you provided throughout and we felt really excited and comfortable with everything, which made us enjoy our day even the more! Thank you again, and all the best for lots more BIG LOVE!!!”